Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Do not Marry! Stay happy!

I have come across so many people who do not want to get married in their lives. Earlier I used to think it’s only me or its just lack of maturity in me or my feminism which say that I should not get married. But gradually I have come across so many people in my life or are somehow related to my life who say that they do not want to get married.
My reasons not to get married is:
I think I will not find a person ever in my life who can bear with me, my thoughts and my high volume on each & everything. Its not that I get angry, its just my pitch is a bit high that in my theatre plays, I am exempted of collar mics. I don't think there's a guy who is brave enough to do that.
Hats off to my PG mates, who are bearing with me.

Marriage is a relationship through which you will get a saas, nanad, sasur, jeth, devar etc but not a husband.
When you will need a husband, he will be busy in playing the role of a son, brother, or anything but not husband.
So in short, faayeda kuchh nahi. Sirf consequesnces.
Its just a legal bond, in which u r allowed to move in with a guy, in his home, with all your new bed, fridge, AC, oven, and many other things gifted by your father. Dowry, to be axact.
These days, success rate of the marriages are very low. I think people these days not now very tolerant to anything which they are not comfortable in. So they get fed up easily and break the relationship. Nobody takes marriage as a relationship n commitment did to each other. They just believe in a bond which is signed by both of the parties and are approved of living together but in reality, they might ot approve each other. They might ot talk to each other. They might be having different views about each other. But still, because in society, they have to live with each other, because they husband n wife, they choose to bear with each other.
Girls now are more aware of their rights. In older times, when a woman wants to do something, she could be replied by the word 'NO'. But now-a-days, people know that she would retaliate. So they play Emotional Politics to say NO. They just do not say straight NO, they just give some reasons from the woman herself, that she herself says NO to the situation.
Sooner or Later...Do not Marry! Stay happy!

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Every Man is 'Doosra Aadmi' - Every Women is 'Doosri Aurat'

Recently I watched a play in Multi Art Cultural Centre, Kurukshetra "Doosra Aadmi Doosr Aurat". A play in which every man can see himself and a woman can see herself. Not because we all have extra-marital affairs and cheat our partners somewhere, but because we somewhere are never satisfied with our lives and seek love and emotional bonds in any attractive man/woman around us.

The play conveyed a beautiful still bitter message how we are always stuck into the dilemma of being true to ourselves or to the society. We all boycott many things due to societal issues. Sometimes we lead a very artificial life just due to society and its pressure. Shoma Das (played by Dr Madhudeep Singh), migrates to Mumbai to lead a carefree and independent life. She is free, strong and a sensitive lady who comes across one of his colleagues, Sambhav Singh (played by Ravi Mohan Ras). Very naturally both fall in love with each other, seek their satisfaction in both emotional and physical relationships. Not to forget, both are married and have their own families. Still they continue with each other. Shoma finds this relationship more interesting than her own marriage. Sambhav respects her, her feelings, her liking and everything she wanted from her husband. Gradually, Shoma feels, she can never get respect and recognition what a wife does if she goes out with Sambhav. Sambhav also makes her feel so. Misunderstandings occur, fights are resolved but Shoma always finds that she is "just-another-women" for Sambhav, which bothers her a lot and she get nightmares. Sambhav hates her psycho-maniac behaviour and gets fed up. In the end, Shoma takes a leave from office for a month and gets back to her own life, where there is no Sambhav. She owns her own responsibilities and her daughter and finds it satisfactory. She sees a friend in Sambhav, nothing much.

The play conveys that how do we find interest in our same old n boring life and somewhere we are happy in it. At times we feel like having something special when we get bored in our lives. For time being, we find such relationships wonderful. But as the time passes and those relationships become our duties, we are unable to cope with them because we find those relationships not worthy enough. 
Shoma wanted a relationship for her happiness but how and when she becomes prey to it, it becomes late then. Sometimes relationships eat us and our 'self' but Shoma didn't let this happen.

A dialogue of the play which I found very effective. When Sambhav asks Shoma, in frustration, if she wants to marry him.

Shoma: I will marry you and break my past marriage. Later on, when I will not be satisfied by this marriage, I will marry again. And it will go on. So marriage is the solution.

'Character-less' is never a word for me. No one is character-less. Every person does something for his/her sake. Shoma and Sambhav are not character-less. They are the victims of their own temporary desires. We all have Shoma and Sambhav in us. For me every man, who is victim of such emotional games of life, is a 'Doosra Aadmi' and a 'Doosri Aurat'.

Thursday, February 28, 2013

Restless Life

People of fast life, running like anything behind nothing. Hearts carelessly crushed under the stilettos or huge Woodland shoes but still no time to cry and wipe a tear away from the cheek. I wonder where everyone is running. What are they trying to achieve? Not peace, obviously, as they say. If they wanted peace it’s really not in running. Peace exists in standing silently and wandering for a few minutes. Peace exists in stroking the dog who sits on your doorstep every day. I have experienced peace, I’m sure. Peace surely lies in calling someone you care and asking him, “Hey! You had dinner? How was your day?”

I think, people themselves kick away their Peace of mind and indulge themselves in doing useless job for the sake of earning money and livelihood. We work all day long for a Multinational Company or for an Institute and earn our living. Imagine, after ten years of such a job, when someone asks, tell me about your life, what you will answer. “I earned money and worked for a company! And yeah! I went for few tours on my birthday!”

According to me, life is something in which you have to earn love and care. So when you have a bad day, someone should be there to count on. It can be friend, boyfriend, husband, wife, mother, sister, father, or anyone. Life becomes impossible when you realize that you don’t have someone who listens to you.
I have some friends who had break-up with their girlfriends because they didn't have time to spend on them. I can’t believe actually it was the reason. Now-a-days, people have so many delicious dishes in their menu card, but no time to eat. But the ice-cream melts before they could eat.

It’s the biggest misunderstanding of a person if he thinks that if he works all the time and he thinks of his own benefits all the time, is the best he can do to himself. Because we think about our benefits and in we involve so much in the same, that we forget and ignore our loved ones. And then in the end we see broken relationships everywhere.

The day is not away when there would be no place to cry and there would be no shoulder.

Wednesday, January 2, 2013


MAYBELLINE BABY LIPS BERRY CRUSH Lip balm is a stick of normal size, 4.5 gm, as written by MAYBELLINE.
Translucent pink-red colour appears on the lips as you apply it. So if u don't want color just apply it gently on your lips and if you want colour, apply it really hard. You won't get so much colour as it's not a lipstick. But yeah! It will make your lips look nice! A normal & natural colour would appear.

It says "Six hour moisture", but no! It never happens! Because if you eat or drink anything, lip balm goes off! I dunno it generally happens with me! Don't know about you. So, you have to apply it over n over again.  Keep it with you in your pocket or in your bag!
If u don't eat or drink, it will last maybe for 1.5-2 hours! No, not 2 hours! Maybe 3 hours but its ok! Its good!
This review is just according to me. I don't know may be you will experience something else. 

Monday, May 28, 2012

Swimming After Two Years

Today, I went to swimming pool after two years and six months!

I woke up around 6:48 in the morning and got ready. I went to the swimming pools gate and gave Rs 5 to the employee sitting there. I went to the bathroom and took a bath and wore my swimming cap.

It is a big rectangular pool and which was four, seven and sixteen feet deep and the divisions were done by the rope in between. I went to seven feet. I wondered what if I might have forgotten how to swim. What if I die just after jumping into the water? I thought so much. And I just jumped into the water and my brain got blank. The next thing I felt that I was swimming like a fish in the water. I jumped, I swam and I enjoyed. And I realized that I didn’t forget to swim. I came back to my home. I felt sleepy. I slept around 8:30 and slept till 3:00 PM. 

Swimming makes you so tired!

I saw many new faces there. Everything so changed and so new. People were new. All the kids were new and all the ladies. There were a few ladies and a lot of kids. Things were changed. After swimming, we all used to gather in the bathrooms to take bath. We all used to enjoy showing off our new soap, shower gel, shampoo etc. But this year, the scenario was totally different. People didn't take bath. They didn't even take shower. They directly changed there clothes and went back to their homes. I was surprised seeing the whole thing but my face was expressionless.

Experience was good, even after two years when I had no friend there. Sometimes, its good to be surrounded by unknown people and it feels like you are alone in a crowded room. :)